“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” – Vicki Harrison
The emotions we feel from losing a loved one can be overwhelming. As we try to process this loss, grief begins to set in. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a renowned psychiatrist, established the theory that grief occurs in five distinct stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Of course, all of us grieve differently, but at some point, we will come to experience one or more of these stages. Continue reading to learn more about the five stages of grief.
The first stage in the theory is denial. It is used to minimize the pain of loss. As we are trying to comprehend a reality without our loved one, we need to survive this intense emotional pain. Denial slows the process down so we can adjust to a new reality. It’s a time where we may reflect on experiences with this person and wonder how to move on without them.
After losing a person we love, we can experience anger. Extreme emotions, such as anger, is something that happens when we are uncomfortable. So when we express anger, we may be left feeling isolated in our experiences. Because it’s such a strong emotional release, it can push others away or let us be perceived as unapproachable.
Desperation sets in as we begin to bargain with ourselves. We start to consider ways to avoid the pain. We may find ourselves making requests to a higher power. There also are moments where we may feel completely helpless because the situation is out of our control. We are trying to get back control, even though the pain is inevitable.
As we come to terms with the loss, we are now faced with reality. We can begin to grieve, but feel a deep sadness that wasn’t there before. During this time, we may retreat inward and become less sociable. This sadness can slowly turn into depression, which has multiple signs. From loss of appetite to feelings of hopelessness, depression comes in many forms.
As we reach a place of acceptance, we can begin to move forward. We may still feel the pain of loss, but we can begin to heal and reconnect with others for support. We can start to feel more hopeful again.
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