up for yourself!” is a common phrase said to individuals on the short end of
the stick. However, for many people it’s not as easy as simply saying their
thoughts and feelings in the heat of the moment. This lack of assertiveness can
be the result of trauma holding them back as well as fears and conflict
avoidance. So how does one learn how to overcome these obstacles?
Why People Lack Assertiveness
outside perspective, people can be very quick to judge and belittle those who
are not as outspoken. The lack of assertiveness can stem from a wide variety of
factors in a person’s life. This can be having low self-esteem, being unable to
handle stress, being avoidant, etc. Some people avoid being assertive because
they fear that their peers will not like them for being “too bold”. Others may
be so used to remaining passive, such as due to past abuse or bullying, that
they find it hard to break out of their shell.
Understand the Differences in Communication
step is to understand the differences between assertiveness, passiveness, and
aggressiveness. Being assertive is vastly different from aggressiveness and
some people may misunderstand the difference in communication. Aggressive
people tend to put their needs first by pushing other people over without any
regard – often coming off as rude or selfish. While assertiveness is being able
to confidently communicate one’s wants and needs while still considering other
On the other
end of the spectrum, passive individuals tend to “go along with the ride” and
support other people’s wants even if they don’t agree with it. They often have
difficulty imposing their own thoughts and wishes. Similarly, a
passive-aggressive person may not directly announce their thoughts but they
tend to express negative feelings in an indirect way instead of openly
assertive is to be clear, honest, and direct in communicating what you want
without hurting or offending those around you. Assertive individuals are able
to express their views even under stress. An example would be confidently
asking for a raise or promotion at work in a concise and professional manner.
Learning to Be More Assertive
is a communication skill that anyone can master. It’s about being calm during
times when assertiveness is needed. It’s much easier to refuse to do something
and stand your ground when you’re not worried about what the other person
thinks about you. Remember that it’s possible to give an aura of confidence without
being rude and remaining positive and approachable.
This is how
hypnosis comes into play. Hypnosis changes the way your unconscious mind reacts
to stressful situations and naturally eases any fears during confrontations and
disagreements. This allows individuals to delve into self-discovery and
eliminate any past negative issues.
learning how to be assertive won’t magically happen overnight. It’s best to
start small while integrating assertive choices in your life. Learning how to
say no to things and setting boundaries are key steps in building your
self-esteem. People are not mind readers so always try to speak up for yourself
if something is bothering you and be open to feedback. At the end of the day, even
the smallest of victories and achievements will boost your confidence.
your emotions about being assertive is key in better developing your
communication skills. With hypnosis, assertiveness can be a natural part of
your personality and enable you to have a voice in various situations. Improve
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